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#22245   2007-09-12 17:02 GMT      
Hi I just want to ask a question to some may seem wierd. why is it at my last two jobs I feel that others are jealous of my artistic ability. I try to compliment them when ever I think they do good work, and praise them, but it still seems to happen to me alot. Then they talk about me behind my back and try and cause strife with my co workers. Right now I just ignore it. It happened to me in Art college too. Any advice would be helpful. thanks
I know it took me a very long time to get here. while all these others were making their life choices i got my degree. I really wish they would focus on themselves and leave me alone. I leave others alone.

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#22246   2007-09-12 17:11 GMT      
well it sounds to me like yopu are reallygood at what you do and your on the right track of giving them compliments and praise , but they probably feel like they would never be as good as you , and they fell threathed by it , but no matter what they say or do always do your best at what ever you do , you might ask them if they would like to have some tips of the trade see what they say
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#22247   2007-09-12 17:11 GMT      
I have a friend who acts like that .... well the best thing to do is what your doing ... continue to compliment them on there work .... but dont forget how long and hard it took you to get your desired spot .... Jealousy is what you should keep you going .... you know your the best at what you do ....continue to do what you do ... dont stop for anyone ... no matter what they think .... alot of dreams go by people that care to much for the other person.....when it comes down to the job , do your best like your doing and forget about the haters !!!
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#22248   2007-09-12 17:14 GMT      
Your work is probably unique and your capibilities are a threat to your co-workers. Continue to be just as enthusiastic about their work. Be the cheerful and peaceful one. You will outshine them all.

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#22249   2007-09-12 17:16 GMT      
Perhaps you compliment and praise others too much? Your praise might seem cheesy and make them feel like you know you're better.
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#22250   2007-09-13 11:24 GMT      
I know what you mean. Jealousy is one of those unfortunate but necessary emotions. Uncontrolled it can spin into a major problem that ruins ones working experience.

I found that the easiest way to combat serious work jealousy is to change to a different studio. Since you are better than most you should have no problem getting a job at another place.

Over time I observed that in most cases jealousy comes from younger or immature co-workers who are socially closely related. So I would look for a studio where the average age is above 30 and where people come from different backgrounds.

When you have many people with different backgrounds (different countries, cultures, regions of country, etc) working together, people tend to naturally respect each other much more because they feel less safe of each other.

On the other hand if you work with people who are all from the same town, perhaps some even went to school together, they feel very safe and its easy for them to harass you in all kinds of subtle but damaging ways.

And jealousy can take many forms. I have a website with my artwork on it (see link below) where people can comment on my images. Every now and than there will be some jealous bozo who will pick some of my best work and write some blatant crap only to hurt my feelings. Some of them go to great length by articulating their comments in such a way that they do maximum damage. I delete such comments , ban their IP, and forget about it.

Finally I'd like to say that in my experience the better the artist, the more sensitive he is. So learn not to "sweat the small stuff". I know its hard, but it can be done if you pay close attention to your own reactions and what actually caused them. Quite often you may find that you overreacted. At least I know I did that a lot in the past and still do every now and then. Anyway, good luck!
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